At the time, I responded: "Out and about. Because I oftentimes work from home, and because I just enjoy going to different places, I make a lot of PM plans during the week. I meet friends for drinks, or crash their casual office get-togethers, or join them at openings. I don't do this to meet guys, but I meet them anyway. When you expose yourself to multiple situations in which you are with people you've never met before, I don't doubt you'll get asked out on a date too. I'm adventurous with my weekend activities as well and I've found the same result. With that said, I don't meet someone everywhere and I certainly don't like everyone I do meet... but I figure if I do, one day, want to fall in love again and I recognize that I am worth falling in love with, then I might as well provide myself with every opportunity to do so. Enjoy your friends, and good luck!"Recently, I've been thinking a lot about that philosophy. In a city like New York, teeming with young professionals, an unrivaled cultural diversity, and abundant offerings for fun date ideas, doing all of the above may seem simple. But I don't think dating is truly simple anywhere, just by the nature of what it is. (Still, it does sound at least a little more exciting in Montreal, Taos, or Berlin.)
At the end of the day, it's not just about having a place to meet potential guys, it's about being ready and willing to meet them. If you're currently single or have been for a decent period of time in the past (4 weeks or before the age of 15 don't count), you know that being so is a wild ride. Sometimes it feels so gosh darn good to be "selfish," to commit to doing what you want, when you want, without a second thought. Sometimes it's flattering to know that men are interested in getting to know you and it's entertaining to have the experiences of getting to know them, even if the dates solely turn into funny stories you share with your friends. Sometimes the mere thought of multiple dating possibilities is exciting. Other times though, being single just kind of sucks.
It does, but it shouldn't. First, don't let your relationship status define you. Single or not, you're awesome; I'm sure of it, despite the fact that I may or may not personally know you. You are accomplished (most likely in more ways than one) and you're loved by many. Surround yourself with these people that make you happiest, and use your you time to further explore, and fulfill, your passions. Second, realize you're not the only one. Assuming you're American, did you know that the 2010 U.S. Census revealed we currently have the highest rate of single adults? Over 100 million. Whether being single is a new thing or an ordinary detail, you, my dear, are in good company. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. It's a waste of negative energy that you don't need nor deserve.
By focusing on those two tips, you will certainly be in an opportune place to meet someone new and even possibly significant, but I've got a third one to add anyway: live life to its absolute greatest capacity. Regardless of the relationship you seek (serious to not-so-much), it's important to feel great with or without a special someone. Be curious, be playful, be yourself, be true. Say yes to appealing new things and turn down options you find yourself dreading. You'll suddenly be having more fun, and that's always an attractive and satisfying quality to have.It may be easier said than done, but it's most definitely worth a try. Perhaps the funniest part, is that I myself have decided to take a break from the dating scene in favor of some honest-to-goodness independent "personal growth." Ha, whatever works, right? Wherever you're at, I hope you're enjoying yourself too.